******** LOVING YOURSELF into WHOLENESS******** f
Seek not outside yourself, heaven is within.
Life batters us whether we are rich or poor, public or private. The wound we suffer may be an open cut or a slow, silent hemorrhage of the soul. On the outside we may look as if we’ve got our act together, but each of us encounters those dark stormy days when we feel very small, very fragile, and very frightened, as if we might shatter into a thousand pieces and break into heartrending sobs at something as “How are you?”
When this happen we have to be kind to ourselves, not beat ourselves up. Leave that to the rest of the world. Our feeling are valid, our fears very real, even though they are probably not based on reality. Always remember that the best description of fear is “false evidence appearing real.”
When this occasion occur in your life, recall that your first duty is to love yourself into Wholeness. How to do this? By pampering yourself with simple pleasures and small indulgences. By treating yourself like the baby you are right now. Could you bring home something wonderful for dinner tonight from a Chinese carryout? Could you treat yourself to some of the potted tulips that are appearing in the shops about now? Could you take the afternoon off and sneak into a matinee? If not, how about bringing home two or three classics from the video store and enjoying a movie marathon with a big bowl of popcorn? Why not delight in an ice-cream cone for lunch, taking it to a park to bask in the sunshine and hear the birds singing? What about saying “no” to the next request for you to do something?
Yes, you can. You don’t have to do everything and be everything for everyone else all the time. If you think you can’t possibly do one more thing without screaming or crying, you’re probably right. Start by saying,” No, I’m sorry, I’ve got a prior commitment.”
For, of course, you do. Today you need to be there for yourself. Remember, we did not lose ourselves all at once. But we recover our authentic selves one kind gesture at a time.
“Therefore be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has us” (Ephesians 5: 1-2). Loving others with whom we have conflicts is not easy. But if a work of restoration is to be achieved, is so important, it is necessary to be sure we understand what it means. First we will look at what love is not.
Love is not phony. Forced smiles or any other false expressions of kindness are both superficial and artificial. They lack the genuine and lasting quality necessary to correct the problems in a broken relationship. Pretending to love others will not do. It has love to be real. The apostle Paul wrote,” Let love be without hypocrisy.
NOW, we know “what love is not? “What is love to you?
Send your comments I will love to know.
Love you!
Monday, April 14, 2008
Thursday, April 3, 2008
THE FOUNDATION OF A "ONENESS MARRIAGE"
A"oneness" marriage is formed by a husband and wife who are crafting intimacy,trust,and understanding with one another. A oneness marriage demands a lifetime process of relying on God and forging an enduring relationship according to God's design. It's more than a mere minglin of two humans. It's a tender merger
of body,soul and spirit.
Example:"Oneness" in marriage has been compared with a pair of scissors with two components joined together never to be separated. Scissors'blades frequently go in different directions, but they are more when coming together.
There are three foundational components to a "oneness marriage". King Solomon spoke of the mortar of a marriage,in proverb:By wisdom,a house is built,and by understanding it is established; by knowledge, the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches(Proverbs 24:3-4.)
Before we look at these fundamental values,let us first remember the verse,note the results when a is built,established,and filled according to God's plan. There is no room in this house for isolation; it has renovated, firmly fixed, and the richness of its value and the pleasure of its enjoyment fill every room.
This is a portrait of a oneness marriage:
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1. A" oneness" marriage needs wisdom.
Wisdom is a skill and everyday living. It means that we respond to circumstances according to God's design. A wise homebuilder recognizes God as the architect and builder of marriages. As we ask God for wisdom and search the scriptures, He supplies the skills to build our home.
One of the most critical issues a husband and wife must settle in their life together is who will be the builder of their marriage?
King David warned us,"Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain."(Psalms 127:1)
2. A "oneness marriage" needs understanding.
Understanding means responding to life's circumstances with insight, and a perspective that looks at life through God's eyes. Understanding your mate from God's perspective results in acceptance of his or her differences, and the beginning in learning how God made that person to complement you.
Understanding produces compassion for your partner; it will give you insight to lead wisely or to follow prudently. Understanding builds "oneness"by establishing the relationship on a foundation of common insight (Proverbs 10:23)
3. A "oneness marriage" needs knowledge.
A marriage is an informational culture. We worship information; but information without application is an empty deity. Every Sunday morning,there are a lot of preachers who present beautiful sermons filled with outstading biblical knowledge. But what do we the believers do? when the sermon ends, we sing a song, say a prayer,and we promptly leave when the service is over.
Where is the time when we absorb into our life what we heard? Do we even take five minutes to reflect on the scriptures? No, instead, we gather with friends or family to know where dinner is going to be; this is our routine every Sunday. What Solomon was talking about is a knowledge that fills a home with precious and pleasant riches. It's more than mere information; it's a knowledge that results in conviction and application. It's a truly teachable spirit that applies God's blueprints amongst the raw reality of life.
Many of us need accountability in order to apply what we learn to our marriage.(Proverbs 10:14; Proverbs 12:1; Psalms 139:6)
In conclusion, a wonderful future is before us all: He gives us a future of unlimited power to bless others,to bless our love,to encourage one another with relationship with God and our husband.
love to you all
Kettly
of body,soul and spirit.Example:"Oneness" in marriage has been compared with a pair of scissors with two components joined together never to be separated. Scissors'blades frequently go in different directions, but they are more when coming together.
There are three foundational components to a "oneness marriage". King Solomon spoke of the mortar of a marriage,in proverb:By wisdom,a house is built,and by understanding it is established; by knowledge, the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches(Proverbs 24:3-4.)
Before we look at these fundamental values,let us first remember the verse,note the results when a is built,established,and filled according to God's plan. There is no room in this house for isolation; it has renovated, firmly fixed, and the richness of its value and the pleasure of its enjoyment fill every room.
This is a portrait of a oneness marriage:
_______________________________________
1. A" oneness" marriage needs wisdom.
Wisdom is a skill and everyday living. It means that we respond to circumstances according to God's design. A wise homebuilder recognizes God as the architect and builder of marriages. As we ask God for wisdom and search the scriptures, He supplies the skills to build our home.
One of the most critical issues a husband and wife must settle in their life together is who will be the builder of their marriage?
King David warned us,"Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain."(Psalms 127:1)
2. A "oneness marriage" needs understanding.
Understanding means responding to life's circumstances with insight, and a perspective that looks at life through God's eyes. Understanding your mate from God's perspective results in acceptance of his or her differences, and the beginning in learning how God made that person to complement you.
Understanding produces compassion for your partner; it will give you insight to lead wisely or to follow prudently. Understanding builds "oneness"by establishing the relationship on a foundation of common insight (Proverbs 10:23)
3. A "oneness marriage" needs knowledge.
A marriage is an informational culture. We worship information; but information without application is an empty deity. Every Sunday morning,there are a lot of preachers who present beautiful sermons filled with outstading biblical knowledge. But what do we the believers do? when the sermon ends, we sing a song, say a prayer,and we promptly leave when the service is over.
Where is the time when we absorb into our life what we heard? Do we even take five minutes to reflect on the scriptures? No, instead, we gather with friends or family to know where dinner is going to be; this is our routine every Sunday. What Solomon was talking about is a knowledge that fills a home with precious and pleasant riches. It's more than mere information; it's a knowledge that results in conviction and application. It's a truly teachable spirit that applies God's blueprints amongst the raw reality of life.
Many of us need accountability in order to apply what we learn to our marriage.(Proverbs 10:14; Proverbs 12:1; Psalms 139:6)
In conclusion, a wonderful future is before us all: He gives us a future of unlimited power to bless others,to bless our love,to encourage one another with relationship with God and our husband.
love to you all
Kettly
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